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A Brand New Year and a Brand New You:-)

 

 

A very Happy New Year to you and yours! 

Many new opportunities in 2018 to begin or continue your healing journey…. 

Join us for one or all of our post-abortion care and recovery programs 

Call or text 614.721.2100 

Email PegiD@PDHC.org 

 

aR Connection Support Meetings 

Connect with other women who can say “me too”…Join us for aR (abortion recovery) Connection post- abortion healing support groups: 

 

Columbus –                     2nd Tuesdays of each month – 7:00-8:00pm – January 9, 2018 

                                          PDHC 665 East Dublin Granville Rd., Columbus, Ohio 43229 

 

                                          3rd Wednesday of each month -9:30-10:30am – January 17, 2018 

                                          W.A.R.M. 150 Heatherdown Dr., Westerville, Ohio 43081 

                               

Lancaster & Athens       Please call or text (614) 721-2100 for meeting location and time. 

 

These groups are for individuals who have a shared abortion experience to connect with each other and to discuss how they can find support. Connection groups provide a safe, confidential, compassionate and nonjudgmental place for individuals to begin the process of healing after abortion. Call or text (614) 721-2100 and visit www.OurChoiceOurVoice.org 

 

 

Living in Color Groups beginning in January 

 

 

Living in Color is a post-abortion recovery and healing program designed for use by a small, facilitator-led support group.  

Dr. Theresa Burke coined the phrase “forbidden grief” to describe the sadness and pain felt by many women following their abortion decision.  This pain is seldom confined to the loss of a child:  many also lose relationships, self-worth, and hope for the future. These losses must be grieved and, as with all grieving journeys, this involves processing emotional responses such as relief, denial, guilt, shame, depression, anger, and forgiveness.  The post-abortive woman also needs to allow herself to “know” her child in order to say “goodbye for now.” 

Having processed her grief, it is important to pay attention to what comes next.  Many women discover that their healing journeys teach them many life lessons that contribute to increased strength of character, wisdom, vision, and hope.  The final chapter of the program celebrates the process of emerging from the “grey zone” of unresolved loss into a life of color, freedom, and joy. 

Call or text (614) 721-2100 or email PegiD@PDHC.org for more info and to register for one of our Columbus or our Morrow County groups. 

 

me too Luncheon 

 

 

 

February 24, 2018 10:00am – 2:00pm 

Registration & details at http://www.metooevent.org

 me too: Our Story   

In January 2015, I was having lunch with a friend I had known for years.  My friend, “Susan”, knew that I volunteered at PDHC a pregnancy care center for women faced with unexpected pregnancy.  Susan, like all my friends and family, assumed I was passionate about volunteering because I had been a young, single mom and could relate to the difficulties these women face. 

We ordered our favorite Thai dish, continued our small talk, but something kept tugging at my heart.  I felt this overwhelming urge to tell Susan the truth about why I volunteer.  Anxiety, brought on by fear of rejection and condemnation, caused my heart to race and palms to sweat.  However, God’s calling to me at that moment was clear “tell Susan the truth”. 

“I want to tell you the real reason I volunteer at PDHC” I paused for what seemed like an hour, my heart pounding.  I went on, “when I was young I had an abortion”.   Our eyes met and I could feel the sadness in her gaze.  Susan reached across the table, laid her hands on mine and said, “me too”. 

The truth is that about one out of four of the friends I share with say “me too” and usually follow up with something like “but I don’t want to talk about it” or “no one knows” or “don’t tell my husband”.  As I become more transparent with my own past abortions, others may eventually be open to finding the same healing peace that I have found through programs like abortion recovery support groups, Living in Color, and Rachel’s Vineyard retreat weekends offered by PDHC. 

The me too luncheon was birthed from this idea of one woman reaching across the table to another, sharing a message of healing and coming together to celebrate God’s peace and forgiveness. 

 

Rachel’s Vineyard Retreat Weekend 

February 16-18, 2018 

Women who have attended a Rachel’s Vineyard Healing Retreat Weekend have said: 

“JESUS IS REALLY REAL, alive, and in love with us all!!! I came to the April retreat expecting something, I didn’t know what but God exceeded anything that I could explain in words. The retreat truly took healing to a level I didn’t know existed and I still can’t believe that it’s happening to me!!! My Life Has Changed and I am Speechless. Thank you Team, I truly love you all.” 

“Excellent exercises that bring participants along the journey of forgiveness and grace.” 

“God breathed and His Son and Spirit were all constantly present, embracing and moving. My sisters in the group and the team members’ hearts were all open, accepting, understanding and kind.” 

“It was the best thing I’ve ever done! I sensed the Lord’s presence there often in every way.” 

One in four women has personally been affected by abortion. 

Rachel’s Vineyard post-abortion healing retreat weekend is February 16-18, 2018 in Columbus, Ohio. 

This confidential retreat is a small group of others who can say “me too”.  The retreat begins Friday afternoon at 3:00pm and concludes on Sunday afternoon at 4:00pm.  Each woman has her own room, all meals are included.  The retreat includes a time of Spiritual connection and personal reflection in a lovely retreat setting.  For more information call or text Pegi at 614-721-2100 or email PegiD@PDHC.org. 

Are you just going through the motions?

After Susan’s abortion, she noticed that the holiday season wasn’t so merry and bright anymore. In fact, all the happy people, with their happy families and their happy lives just made her furious!  She didn’t understand why she felt the way she did.  She would try to reassure herself by saying, “I did the right thing at the time, didn’t I?”  

Day after day, Susan continued to feel angry, alone, guilty, unworthy, and miserable.  When she was exhausted from all those negative feelings, she would put on a happy face with a happy attitude and pretend to be filled with the joy of Christmas!  Her positive attitude worked for a while but the anger always seemed to resurface.  She even became angry about her anger!  

Susan drowned out the voices of the angry emotions by keeping busy.  Since it was Christmas, she decided to bake cookies and bread for everyone on her Christmas list.  She began to volunteer at a women’s shelter and worked three different jobs.   Every moment of each day was filled with something to do or somewhere to be.  Susan was so busy that she didn’t have time to think about anything, especially not her abortion.  She couldn’t feel anything anymore… no joy, no anger just a big painted on smile and a heart filled with emptiness.   

Susan stayed in that empty place for a very long time; not fully participating in life and not remembering much about those years… she was just going through the motions.  One day, one of Susan’s friends asked a very personal question.  Susan’s face turned red, as she took a deep breath, she admitted that she indeed, had an abortion.  At first, her friend showed her love and kindness. She then introduced Susan to a post-abortion healing Bible study group.   

It was at the post-abortion Bible study that Susan began her healing journey.  It was there that she learned she was experiencing something called ‘forbidden grief”.  It was there that her relationship with God was restored.  It was there that after 20 long years, Susan finally felt safe enough to share her story.  It was there that she forga ve herself and others. It was there that she acknowledged the life of her child.  It was there that she stepped out of the gray numbness and began to live her life in full color😊.  

Connect with other women who can say “me too”…Join us for aR (abortion recovery) Connection post- abortion healing support groups: 

Columbus           1st Tuesday of each month 7:00-8:00pm – December 5th  

                             **2nd Tuesdays beginning in January 9, 2018 

PDHC   665 East Dublin Granville Rd., Columbus, Ohio 43229  

                             3rd Wednesday of each month 9:30-10:30am – December 20th 

                              W.A.R.M.  150 Heatherdown Dr., Westerville, Ohio 43081 

Lancaster & Athens    Please call or text (614) 721-2100 for meeting location and time. 

These groups are for individuals who have a shared abortion experience to connect with each other and to discuss how they can find support. Connection groups provide a safe, confidential, compassionate and nonjudgmental place for individuals to begin the process of healing after abortion. 

Call or text (614) 721-2100 for more information.

**Living in Color, post-abortion, healing Bible studies, begin in January.  Call or text (614) 721-2100 or email me for more info and to register for our Columbus group or our Morrow County group.** 

A Time of Thanks

Do you remember the first person with whom you shared your story? A person who really understood you and listened to you from her/his heart? An incredible person who allowed you to be at your very worst perhaps sobbing as you shared the details of your situation, your regret, and your unbearable grief? Someone with whom you could be vulnerable as you admitted secretive behaviors or situations like promiscuity, substance abuse, being taken advantage of or being coerced? Compassionate people help us to see our way to hope and healing in our truly darkest hours.  November is the month that we remember how thankful we are for the blessings in our lives. Consider taking a special moment to think about, pray for and acknowledge our thankfulness for the compassionate people who have touched/impacted our lives. 

Whether you are at a point where you need a compassionate person to share your story or you are that compassionate person who can say “me too”, there is a place where we ALL can connect and for that, we are thankful. 

Connect with other women who can say “me too”...Join us for aR (abortion recovery) Connection post-abortion healing support groups: 

Columbus                      1st Tuesday of each month 7:00-8:00pm – November 7th 

                                       PDHC   665 East Dublin Granville Rd., Columbus, Ohio 43229

 

                                       3rd Wednesday of each month 9:30-10:30am – November 15th 

                                       W.A.R.M.  150 Heatherdown Dr., Westerville, Ohio 43081 

 

Lancaster & Athens    Please call or text (614) 721-2100 for meeting location and time. 

These groups are for individuals who have a shared abortion experience to connect with each other and to discuss how they can find support. Connection groups provide a safe, confidential, compassionate and nonjudgmental place for individuals to begin the process of healing after abortion. 

Call or text (614) 721-2100 and visit www.OurChoiceOurVoice.org 

 

It’s not hopeless…really

Are you at a point of numbness where you are just existing; pretending everything is fine, but it isn’t?

When I commute into the city, I pass thousands of acres of beautiful corn fields that line each side of the road. It is a sight to behold when I realize how just a few months ago, I couldn’t imagine being surrounded by an incredibly overwhelming sight of vibrant crops. Let me explain, earlier in the season, day after day, heavy rains plummeted the newly sowed fields. The farmers feared great crop loss as they watched many of their fields turn into flooded acres of muddy water.  But what I know more than anything else, is that God can, does and wants to change the impossible. I saw a community lift our farmers in prayer and I saw hope restored when I witnessed farmers shifting their problems, their cares and their loss into the hands of the Lord. The farmers did they only thing they could do in a time of potential tremendous loss, they cried out to the Lord and now it was His turn to determine the outcome.  As I look around me, I can’t begin to explain what a bountiful harvest these farmers will receive!

Psalm 126:5 (Amp) proclaims to us, “They who sow in tears shall reap with joyful singing.” Do you ever feel like you sow in so many tears of shame, regret, anger, disappointment and even hate when you are thinking about your past abortion(s)?  Are you at a point of numbness where you are just existing; pretending everything is fine, but it isn’t?  There is a group of women, young and old and somewhere in between who understands because they can say me too.  They’ve been where you have been and where you are now. But guess what? God promises in Psalm 126:5 that we shall reap with joyful singing after the season of sowing tears. The harvest is now upon you; come and let us walk through this journey of healing with you! You owe it to yourself to check out one or more of our aR Connection nights…we promise, you’ll be glad that you came!

Connect with other women who can say “me too”……..Join us for aR (abortion recovery) Connection post-abortion healing support groups:

Columbus                           1st Tuesday of each month 7:00-8:00pm – October 3rd

                                             PDHC   665 East Dublin Granville Rd., Columbus, Ohio 43229

                                            3rd  Wednesday of each month 9:30-10:30am October 18th

                                             W.A.R.M.  150 Heatherdown Dr., Westerville, Ohio 43081

Lancaster & Athens          Please call or text (614) 721-2100 for meeting location and time.

These groups are for individuals who have a shared abortion experience to connect with each other and to discuss how they can find support. Connection groups provide a safe, confidential, compassionate and nonjudgmental place for individuals to begin the process of healing after abortion.

Call or text (614) 721-2100 and visit www.OurChoiceOurVoice.org

Here’s what women who’ve attended Rachel’s Vineyard are saying about their experiences…

Women who have attended a Rachel’s Vineyard Healing Retreat Weekend have said:

“JESUS IS REALLY REAL, alive, and in love with us all!!! I came to the April retreat expecting something, I didn’t know what but God exceeded anything that I could explain in words. The retreat truly took healing to a level I didn’t know existed and I still can’t believe that it’s happening to me!!! My Life Has Changed and I am Speechless. Thank you Team, I truly love you all.”

“Excellent exercises that bring participants along the journey of forgiveness and grace.”

“God breathed and His Son and Spirit were all constantly present, embracing and moving. My sisters in the group and the team members’ hearts were all open, accepting, understanding and kind.”

“It was the best thing I’ve ever done! I sensed the Lord’s presence there often in every way.”


One in four women has personally been affected by abortion.

Rachel’s Vineyard post-abortion healing retreat weekend is February 16-18, 2018 in Columbus, Ohio.

This confidential retreat is a small group of others who can say “me too”.  The retreat begins Friday afternoon at 3:00pm and concludes on Sunday afternoon at 4:00pm.  Each woman has her own room, all meals are included.  The retreat includes a time of Spiritual connection and personal reflection in a lovely retreat setting.  For more information call or text Pegi at 614-721-2100

 

What does Labor Day have to do with abortion?

Labor Day is a reminder to children that vacations to the beach and summer fun are coming to an end and the carefree life, as they know it, is over.  A quickly approaching Labor Day may bring a pout to the face and a grumpiness to the attitude of a child. 
Similarly, we may have experienced the same shift to our spirit as we walked out of the abortion clinic. Whether saddened, disappointed or relieved about our experience, we soon discovered that life as we knew it was simply over. 
Maturity to the child and healing to the soul can bring a new perspective to a new season that is ready to unfold. A season that brings a hopeful new beginning and new opportunities to meet caring women who can say, “me too”.  And maybe, just maybe, if you stay awhile, you may discover a more peaceful you!
Join us for any or all our upcoming aR Connection meetings and Rachel’s Vineyard Retreat: 

Please contact me to register or go to http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/ for more information. We look forward to walking with you as you begin or continue your healing journey during this life-changing retreat. 

www.rachelsvineyard.org
Healing After Abortion. Call our toll-free national hotlines: Rachel’s Vineyard: 877 HOPE 4 ME (877-467-3463) – National Hotline for Abortion Recovery: 866-482-LIFE …
 

Connect with other women who can “me too”……..Join us for aR (abortion recovery) Connection post-abortion healing support groups:

Columbus         1st Tuesday of each month 7-8pm – September 5th @ PDHC-665 East Dublin Granville Rd, Cols., OH 43229 

                           3rd Wednesday 9:30-10:30am – September 20th @ W.A.R.M. 150 Heatherdown Dr, Westerville, OH 43081 

Lancaster         Call or text (614) 721-2100 for meeting location and time 

These groups are for individuals who have a shared abortion experience to connect with each other and discuss how they can find support.   Connection groups provide a safe, confidential, compassionate, and nonjudgmental place for individuals to begin the process of healing after abortion. 

Call or text 614-721-2100. 

Pegi Deeter
 

 

Connection Meetings and Rachel’s Vineyard

aR Connection meetings and the upcoming Healing Retreat Weekend are a labor of love for those of us who can say “me too”.  We are peer volunteers who have been where you are.  We understand some of the triggers, emotions, and grief.

September support group meetings begin on Tuesday, September 5th from 7-8pm at 665 E. Dublin Granville Rd., Columbus, OH and Wednesday, September 20th from 9:30-10:30am  at W.A.R.M.,150 Heatherdown  Dr., Westerville, OH.

Rachel’s Vineyard // What is Rachel’s Vineyard?

Join us for the Columbus retreat September 15-17.  Read what ladies are saying about the Rachel’s Vineyard Healing Retreat Weekend:

I came to the April retreat expecting something, I didn’t know what but God exceeded anything that I could explain in words. The retreat truly took healing to a level I didn’t know existed and I still can’t believe that it’s happening to me!!! My Life Has Changed and I am Speechless. Thank you Team, I truly love you all.

Excellent exercises that bring participants along the journey of forgiveness and grace. It was the best thing I’ve ever done!

 

Call or text  Pegi at 614-721-2100 for more information.

 

 

 

New Year, New You

Do you ever look back and ask yourself “How could I have made that choice? That person doesn’t even look like me.”  Those thoughts still come to my mind, then I remember that I truly am a different person than I was when that choice was made.  I invite you to join this confidential gathering of other women who can say “me too”.

Abortion Recovery (aR) Connection meetings in January 2017:

Tuesday, January 3rd          |   7 to 8pm at PDHC

665 East Dublin Granville Rd., Columbus 43229

 

Monday, January 9th          |   6 to 7pm at Ohio University

Baker Hall, The Women’s Center, Athens, Ohio 45701

 

Wednesday, January 18th  | 9:30 to 10:30am at W.A.R.M.

150 Heatherdown Dr., Westerville 43081

 

Thursday, January 19th      |   7 to 8pm at The Gateway Center

2670 N Columbus St., Lancaster 43130

Click here for a full listing of meeting dates. 

These support groups are for individuals who have a shared abortion experience to connect with each other and discuss how they can find hope and forgiveness.  Support groups provide a safe, confidential, compassionate and nonjudgmental place for individuals to begin the process of healing after abortion.

We respect your privacy and value confidentiality. Please contact me directly at Pegid@pdhc.org or by calling or texting out 24/7 Careline at 614.721.2100

Triggers

A trigger is a reminder of some past event that intrudes on the present and arouses various physical, mental and emotional responses.  Triggers may be pleasant, such as the aroma of cookies baking that remind us of a visit to grandma’s house.  Triggers may also be extremely distressing. Have you experienced a trigger related to your past abortion(s)? Perhaps you don’t realize why you feel anxious or depressed by certain aromas, sounds or relationships. Holidays can also be a trigger, a time of remembering what has been lost.

Connect with other women who can say “me too”. We’ve been where you’ve are.  Let’s talk.

aR (abortion recovery) Connection meetings are for individuals who have a shared abortion experience to connect with each other and discuss how they can find support.   These support groups provide a safe, confidential, compassionate, nonjudgmental place for individuals to begin the process of healing after abortion.

  • Columbus //    1st Tuesday, December 6th 7-8pm @  665 East Dublin Granville Rd, Columbus, OH 43229
  • Athens //         2nd Monday, December 12th 6-7pm @ OU, Baker Hall, The Women’s Center
  • Lancaster //    3rd Thursday, December 15th  7-8pm @  2670 N Columbus St, Lancaster, OH 43130

I say “Lets help each other through this, together”.

Do you know someone who had an abortion? Chances are that you do: a friend from college, or high school, perhaps a sister or cousin, or a friend of a friend.  You still think about it.  Perhaps you think of that friend and wonder how they are feeling, but are afraid to bring it up.

Chances are, if you are thinking about that abortion, so are they.  Let’s talk about it.

Abortion loss is a disenfranchised grief: complicated grief.  Women often say things like: “I made this choice so I have no right to grieve.” or “I made this choice so I have no right to feel a loss.”… or,  “I made my bed, now I have to lie in it.” I say “Lets help each other through this, together”.

aR (abortion recovery) Connection meetings are for individuals who have a shared abortion experience to connect with each other and discuss how they can find support.   These support groups provide a safe, confidential, compassionate, nonjudgmental place for individuals to begin the process of healing after abortion.

Athens // Second Monday monthly // November 14 // 6-7pm // OU, Baker Hall at The Women’s Center

Columbus // Third Wednesday monthly // November 16 // 9:30-10:30am // W.A.R.M. 150 Heatherdown Dr, Westerville, OH 43081

Lancaster // Third Thursday monthly // November 17 // 7-8pm // The Gateway Center at 2670 N Columbus St, Lancaster, OH 43130

Columbus // First Tuesday monthly // December 6 // 7-8pm //PDHC 665 East Dublin Granville Rd, Columbus, OH 43229

Call or text Pegi at 614-721-2100 and visit www.OurChoiceOurVoice.org

 

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” -Matthew 11:28-30